Do The Hardest Thing First And The Rest Will Be Easy

May 12th, 2008

Have you ever noticed that in life we almost always choose the easy road, the path of least resistance when it comes to challenges in our way?

I remember as a kid working in a warehouse, the foreman came up to me when I was complaining about the tough job I had ahead of me at the end of my shift, and said…

“You want a secret that will help you not have to deal with that task at the end of the day?”

I said “Sure”, hoping he was about ready to give me a new assignment.

“Do the hardest thing first, and the rest will be easy” he replied.

I must have looked at him with an expression similar to a confused puppy learning a new trick, when he continued with…

“It’s like this… when it’s all said and done, you know you have to finish the job right?”

My head nodded in sad agreement.

” Well, since you have to do it anyway, why not just do it now, right away and get it over with? That way, you get to handle it when you have the most energy, as well as put it out of your head so you don’t have to worry about it any longer?

That way for the rest of the shift, you can focus on all the easier tasks ahead of you and enjoy the time you’re here.”

Now I know this is not some great” Aristotle” wisdom, but the message has stayed with me ever since and has helped me in ever possible function of my adult life. So much so, that I am sharing it here with you now.

Even when it comes to paying our taxes or the day-to-day “Drama” that may occur, the same thing applies…deal with it then and there.

That way, it’s off your plate so to speak so you can move on to something more pleasant and don’t have to carry it around with you, or worry about it any longer.

Now, like every month I challenge you, as well as a little secret I learned.

Want to know how to fix this? Do you want a sure fire way to help end procrastination in your life?

Do this-

Take a moment, and write down three things, no matter how large or small that you have been putting off.

Then starting tomorrow (with Commitment) Do them! No questions asked, no excuses, just do those three things.

Then, once complete, write down three more things, and do them the next day, repeat, etc…

What you will find is a renewed feeling of accomplishment. It gives us a feeling that we took action and eliminates what ever those things we had at the back of our minds.

It may sound obvious, but how many of you will do this?

Will you?

************************************

You have permission to publish this article electronically or in print, free of charge, as long as the bylines are included. A courtesy copy of your publication would be appreciated.

Greg Reid - EzineArticles Expert Author

About The Author

Greg Reid, GregReid@AlwaysGood.com

http://alwaysgood.com

Gregory Scott Reid is a Well-Known Speaker and two-time #1 best-selling author of, “The Millionaire Mentor” and “Wake Up: Live the Life You Love” www.AlwaysGood.com

WHAT NATURE TEACHES US

May 10th, 2008

Copyright © 2005

It is pretty amazing how our nature teaches us how to live a
successful life. But most of us act as if we can’t hear what it
has been preaching us for years. Let’s take a look at
plants.They are really independent and they appreciate what our
mother nature provide.

A Plant might be standing href="http://lonelyou.com/inviting/lonelyou%20inviting.html? "
rel="nofollow">alone“
without a friend to visit or a doctor to cure
when sick but is not getting href="http://lonelyou.com/inviting/lonelyou%20inviting.html? "
rel="nofollow">lonely“
.

It takes care of itself. It never complained and it still gives
fruit and shade.It could be really hot or cold but a plant
stands still.It keep growing …. .

Maybe this example might seen unreal, let’s take a look at
infants. Have you ever seen infants learning how to walk, what
do they do after falling many times?……….you bet.

Infants never give up when they fall, they keep trying, they are
controlled by what is inside (their ambition) rather that the
outside world.

It does not matter what is happening to their surroundings, but
what is happening inside their mind.

If plants take care of their own without needing anybody else
and infants keep doing what they really want, why are you
feeling lonely?.

Have you ever thought why you are lonely?

What would be like if you could feel happy and have energy you
always wanted, feeling secured and approach any one anywhere and
anytime.

To be able to make friends instantly until you can’t handle the
number anymore. It is not really that hard it takes three few
steps.

1. Change your thought

Thoughts have energy that if they are accumulated they will
transform into reality. let me explain..,

Do you remember the time you bought a car, didn’t you see that
particular car (especially of same color) every time you
drive…..why?…

Your thoughts about car were preoccupied (energized) by that
particular car and they were transformed into reality, that’s
why you saw those cars particularly of the same color every time
you drive.

So you need to surround yourself with conditions that generate
change in your thinking process .You can do affirmation, read
motivational books or find people who had the same problem.(
Online forum are the best ).

2. Take action

I can’t stress this enough! If you just sit around and fill
sorry for what has happened you will keep getting worse for the
reasons described above.The world we live has no mercy for
people who feel sorry for themselves. Just like an infant who
does not care what is happening or who is watching, just do it.

3. href="http://lonelyou.com/inviting/lonelyou%20inviting.html?" rel="nofollow">
Use your own resources”

For the power of this information I can’t reveal this part to
the public but if you want Click the above link to get more info.

Sincerely,

Timeo Busyanya,

Helping individuals, improve their self image

href="http://lonelyou.com/inviting/lonelyou%20inviting.html?" rel="nofollow">lon
elyou.com“
.

P.S Our nature is the best teacher of all.

How to Break the Chain of Vicious Circle

May 6th, 2008

Ever had one of those days, when things just spin out of control no matter what you do? You have? So have I. Welcome to the club of “life on rotation”. Because this is what happens when vicious circle takes over your life.

This, however,does not have to be. Personally and professionally,I have found 5 strategies to be most effective in stopping yourself from going into a catatonic maze in times of vicious circle. These strategies are interrelated, and when applied can help you keep your sanity.

1. Shift your focus by letting go of the problem and not trying to fix things. There are times when situations are best left alone temporarily. Your wanting to control a volatile or calamitous situation when you are overwhelmed only makes things worse. The best thing is to turn your attention to other matters and relax.

Getting yourself to relax may be difficult at first when a problem is gnawing at you. When this happens, take a deep breath, listen to your intuition and move away from the scene of tension. Take charge and do what is good for you. Be creative and take a break. Just remember this, fretting won’t solve your problem!

2. Choose your thoughts consciously. It is only natural that when things get out of control your thinking gets impaired. Still, it is important to watch your thoughts and emotions. For these are powerful energy which can constrict or open your path to finding new solutions, depending on how you use them.

I have great admiration for people who are able to remain calm and collected in the heat of recurring catastrophes. These people often radiate a special glow which seems to single them out.

I once asked a medical assistant of a colleague, how she was always able to remain poised in the midst of all the drama that went on 24/7 at work. She smiled at me and replied that when she was young her mother always reminded her that she could choose the way she wanted to see things, especially in difficult times. She said that knowledge was what got her through primary school. Because the kids were often cruel to her, since she never knew her father. So instead of thinking herself depraved, she chose to think of herself as being privileged to have the special love and attention of her mother all to herself!

3. Change and raise your vibration by focusing on what gives you joy.

When you choose thoughts that support you and your condition, the built up pressure wears off and you are more at ease. This makes it easier to raise your inner vibration from this position.

Connect with the source of life by remembering all the goodness surrounding you and feel grateful for being alive and well.

Laugh out loudly at yourself, sing off key… etc., be funny, be silly! Do whatever gets you into a natural high vibrancy of total bliss. Fully feel the excitement of the moment as your body tingles with renewed energy.

4. Be open to others. Invite other people into your life by having a giving heart. Share your knowledge and joy with people who need and want them.

When you are caught in a whirlwind of confusion, it is easy to get wrapped up in yourself and your problem. This is understandable, but it is the least helpful way to finding solutions. “You cannot fight your way out of a cyclone when you’re sitting right in the middle of it’s wailing noise” is a favourite expression of one of my great mentors.

Learn to wait for things to quiet down and then connect with other people for comfort and nurturing. Everyone has a story to tell and by sharing your story with others, you’ll find comfort in knowing that you’re not alone. This is a fact of life which we often forget.

5. Say ‘no’ firmly to yourself when necessary and move on. Leave behind whatever is not serving you for something new.

Sometimes we may experience moments of vicious circle in our lives, because we refuse to see what is happening to us. A change may be overdue and it is time to let go and move on. If you have ever fought hard to hold on to something and tried various angles to succeed, all to no avail. Maybe you realised that the more you tried the more calamity you encountered? Here is a suggestion:

Stop trying and give yourself the permission to quit. A Few days later, observe how you feel. My guess is that you will feel better and more in control. This is the state you want to attain and maintain to break the chain of any vicious circle.

Be consistent in implementing these strategies, and in no time you’ll find that no vicious circle is able to hold you captive ever again.

Kunbi Korostensky N.D., Psychotherapist and Certified Life Coach is specialised in supporting people going through various life changes, such as after a divorce, bereavement and dealing effectively with teenagers. Check out her ebooklet: Top 10 holistic Questions to Embrace Change and Grow at http://www.embracingchanges.com.BooksandCDs.html

Happiness Is

May 1st, 2008

Only you can answer what happiness is and what it really means to you. However, here are a few self development tips that have made life happier for many other people and who knows; maybe they could serve as at least some of the ingredients in a recipe for happiness for you too.

Stay young at heart

Regardless of your age, if you start acting too old, you will actually not benefit yourself at all. Studies have shown that people who act old, feel old, and can actually suffer from problems before their time. Do not be afraid to be youthful, within reason. The next time you see a man in his seventies, running a marathon or a woman keeping up in aerobic class, you can see that by refusing to give into age, they are healthier and live much longer lives.

Meditate

Find some time just for you, away from noise and distractions. Meditation can come in many forms. Whatever way you meditate, ensure that you are in a quiet place with soft lighting, sit with good posture and in a comfortable position, practice slow, rhythmic breathing, and concentrate on something calm and relaxing. Meditation is a great stress reducer, which is vital for good health.

Keep a positive attititude

A negative attitude can have a negative impact on your health just as a positive attitude can affect your health in a positive manner. Living well has a direct correlation with a positive outlook. Keep smiling and try to find the good in life, even when things are tough.

Make time for intimacy

If you are married, be sure to make time for intimacy in your relationship. Sex is a great stress reducer and keeps a marriage happy. Sex is healthy act that should be enjoyed.

Stretch Your Mind

When you stretch your body in preparation for exercise as well as after exercise, you need to stretch your mind as well. You might be wondering how and why. When your mind is relaxed, your body follows. To achieve a relaxed mind, listen to soothing music, relax your breathing, and use visualization techniques such as Yoga. Another exercise discipline that is very popular and works is the Pilates program.

Terje Ellingsen - EzineArticles Expert Author

Terje Brooks Ellingsen is a writer and internet publisher. He runs the website 1st-Self_Improvement.net. Terje is a Sociologist who enjoys contributing to the personal growth and happiness of others. He tries to accomplish this by writing about self improvement issues from his own experience and knowledge. For example, developing a happier life and building happy relationships.

The Secret of Using Intention To Your Advantage

April 28th, 2008

I’ve known for a long time that my Intention
played a large part in my ability to influence.

Remember in your early days of selling when your
sales manager said to you ” Act confident ” or “Go
into that call assuming you are going to get that sale”.

What was that all about?

Well, your sales manager (or mentor) was looking to
focus your Intention.

Remember the old saying ” the world steps aside for
a man who knows where he’s going ” ?

The fact is, whether you consciously use intention or
not it is constantly broadcasting to everyone you
interact with. Underlying your verbal messages, your
intention causes its “real” message to come shining
through.

Not only can people read your Intention but having an
Intention also affects you, because ” Energy flows where
Attention goes As determined by Intention”

I’m sure you can all think of an example of your Intention
influencing your Attention. The classic example is when
your Intention is to buy a new car. If you are considering
a new model or a non-mainstream car suddenly you see
them everywhere. Were they there before? Of course
they were. You didn’t see them because you were not Intending to buy one. So, how can you spot opportunities
in a sales call unless your Intention focus your Attention?

So how do you harness intention?

First and foremost, intention is activated by having a
specific outcome.

Before you influence anyone you must first know
what your objective is.

So let’s talk about outcomes for a few minutes.

The first step to consider when creating an outcome is,
do you really want this outcome? Is it relevant to your
overall concept of who you are and where you’re going in
life? Will having this outcome really advance you forward
in a relevant way? Since you’ll be investing yourself in
this outcome you need to make sure it’s worth what it
will take to achieve it.

While the above may sound simplistic, I find all too
often that people overlook it. Unless I’m careful, I find
myself falling into that trap as well. It’s too easy to
be diverted by things that take time and energy but don’t
really move you closer to where you want to be.

Next, an outcome should be about what you want, not what
you don’t want. For example, you might have an outcome
like this: “I want my meeting with Mr. Radcliffe at 2 PM
today to conclude with him agreeing to sell me his
property for nothing down on a lease option. And I want
him to feel good about this decision and be excited to do
additional business with me in the future.”

Contrast that above outcome with this one: “I want my
meeting with Mr. Radcliffe at 2 PM today to work out for
us both. I want to be able to explain all the pros and
cons of buying his property on a lease option. I don’t
want him to be concerned about doing a ‘no money down’
deal. I hope I can overcome any objections he might
have. And if this doesn’t work then… well… I don’t
know what. I guess I’ll just keep looking.”

Do you see how that last outcome statement kind of goes
all over the place? Read the two outcome statements again
and just experience how you feel when you read each one.

The first one is much stronger, isn’t it.

An outcome should be simple and clear. You should be able
to represent the outcome you want with a simple picture or
symbol in your mind.

And you can benefit from creating your outcome in writing
— especially as you get started on working with outcomes
in this fashion.

An outcome should be stated in present tense. Not for
example like: “I’d like to have…”

There are several other ” Keys to an Achievable Outcome ”
which I’d be happy to coach you on. If you are interested
contact me via the website listed at the end of this article.

Like I said earlier, you start your intention working
for you by having a well-designed outcome. But that’s
only the beginning.

The best designed outcome in the world can still fail
miserably if it’s not backed with your intention to make
it happen.

So how do you do that, I hear you asking.

You do that by believing and investing your emotion in
the outcome. By fervently wanting and expecting it to
happen.

If your outcomes are aligned with your purpose, you’ll
find that they are also backed with integrity and inner
power.

And when your outcomes are formulated in this fashion,
you’ll find that they are infused with integrity and
they can’t help but come true.

Bring the power of intention to bear strongly in your life. Develop the ability to set outcomes that work.
Stay focused on what will make the biggest difference
and really count for something. Most importantly, take
action by starting right now to implement what you’ve
learned (or been reminded of) in this article.

Why not start right now by writing three outcomes so
that you can experience what you’ve just read about
firsthand.

Remember, “What you focus on you get !”

Here’s to YourSalesSuccess.

Greg Woodley - EzineArticles Expert Author

Greg is a salesman. He’s been selling for 23 years and has negotiated supply contracts in the USA, UK, Canada, Germany, Netherlands, Singapore and Japan.

He has sold as much as $7million in a year. His worst result over 23 years was 94% of budgeted sales at 99% of budgeted profit. He’s now semi-retired at 46.

He has a desire to help other salespeople live a good life, free themselves of money worries and retire early.

OK. Greg can sell but teaching and coaching is another matter.

He has been trained in one-on-one coaching skills acquiring a “Professional Development Certificate in Coaching Practice” from the Psychology Department of the University of Sydney. He is a Master Practitioner of Neuro Linguistic Programming ( NLP ). Naturally, he has attended many sales training courses at home and overseas and is an avid reader of sales books.

Over the years Greg has become more interested in helping people that helping companies.

More info, click here, http://www.sellingandpersuasiontechniques.com.